Relationships that are free from strings — something that most people only see in movies (hey Ashton! and Natalie!). Many people have never had the chance to experience one, and even if they do, it rarely lasts as long.
This foolproof formula can help you maintain your NSA relationships. If you want your NSA relationships to be happy, healthy, and free from stress, there are some rules that you must follow.
Here are five rules to help you get and maintain a NSA relationship.
Do I need to start an NSA relationship?
That’d be a friends-with-benefits relationship, which is actually different from an NSA relationship.
NSA relationships usually involve two people with little to no history. You should not have any personal feelings, even platonically, with the person you are NSAing.
The reason for this is because unlike friends-with-benefits relationships, NSA relationships do not have any ties at all to the person you’re seeing. People often fail in their FWB relationships. This is because it is easier to get emotionally involved when you hook up with someone you know or a friend.
This makes it easier to follow all the rules if you are entering into an NSA relationship without knowing anyone. They will probably be attractive only for their looks, and they won’t have any sex with you. This is all that is needed for an NSA relationship.
It is only because you will both be regular sexual partners that it bears the “relationship” label.
It’s all about the pleasure. With friends, you will be more likely give them emotional support. This type of relationship is easy to maintain. All you need is sex and fun.
Do not have other expectations.
What is the best time to see my NSA partner besides sex?
Second, keep your distance with your NSA partner. It is not a good idea to get to know your NSA partner or hang out with them often. This can lead to developing feelings and sex.
Spending time apart can also serve as a reminder of your casual relationship and gives you the opportunity to meet other people.
You both have your freedom, you can have sex with anyone you like, but you must be safe.
It should be for plans to meet up again, not to have sex. You should never stay at the other’s house.
This is only permissible in very special circumstances, such as if you arrive late at night and are drunk or vice versa.
You shouldn’t expect to stay, or even try to, if you don’t.
If you get too used to seeing them and staying over to cuddle after sex, that can only mean something’s going to go wrong in that “no-strings-attached” relationship since those behaviors are not supposed to be present.
Do not go out on dates, do not hang out with friends, and don’t cuddle up.
Do I have to be involved in their lives?
It is not a good idea to get intimate with your NSA partner. You don’t want to be able to find out every detail of their lives, as well as yours. Who will you turn to if you feel like you don’t have anyone to talk to when you are feeling down?
They are a couple — that sounds very much like a relationship.
It is important to keep your private life separate from your NSA relationship. Once you mix the two, they will know more about you than your friends. You will most likely develop feelings for this person, regardless of whether you want to. They will make you feel comfortable talking to you about any topic, they will trust you, and you will be attracted to them.
When you have all these things, it’s difficult to not fall in love with someone.
However, the goal is not to get too intimate with one another. You can share some basic information about yourself and have small talks about the things you do every day, but it should not get any deeper than that.
If you want to maintain your NSA relationship, set boundaries and keep them out of your personal life.
What can I do to prepare for an NSA relationship?
A key point to successful NSA relationships is that both partners must be emotionally and mature enough to take on this type of relationship.
A relationship with an NSA partner will not work if either of the partners is jealous, needy, clingy or in the wrong headspace.
You must be mature enough to realize that they don’t have to be your sole partner, and that you don’t have to be theirs.
This type of relationship is not conducive to jealousy because neither you nor the other “belong” or have made any commitments.
Also, you can’t expect them to give you their full attention and be a slave to your needs. It won’t work if you ask for more than you have agreed to.
You might get overwhelmed and they may realize that you aren’t holding back your end of the bargain by asking for more than the relationship requires.
Before you drag someone into your mess, take some time to evaluate yourself.
Do I need to have other people as a back-up plan?
Last but not the least, it is important to always have a backup plan in place.
It is not a good idea to make your NSA partner your main relationship. You should always have another person you can call if you feel you have been seeing too many of them. If all goes wrong, you have someone to turn to and possibly a new NSA partner.
You can avoid getting into a serious relationship with just one person by keeping a group of people you enjoy sex with. This will be a great idea if you ever have to disagree with your NSA partner.
You won’t have to worry about them falling for you if your attention is split.